Dear College Student // Christina Gonzalez
Dear College Student,
“Your friends are what you become” – wise words from my middle school youth pastor. That idea rang true to an extent in that season but proved its worth once I began college.
Up until then, my parents could quality control or at least limit time spent with my friendships – and they did – which I’m grateful for in hindsight. However, once I waved them farewell on freshman move-in day, I could hang out with whomever, whenever, and wherever.
The way in which I utilized this freedom had the power to dictate not only the next four years, but I would argue, my entire life. My one and only recommendation, therefore, is to intentionally seek out something I call congruent community.
Let’s define congruent community as a group of people with whom you can be your full and best self. That means, unlike in high school, there’s no need to try to impress these people.
I remember looking forward to college for that reason. In high school I had fantastic community whom I love to this day and have the fondest memories of. However, they drank and smoked every weekend. And I didn’t. They were great friends, but it was not congruent community.
College was an opportunity to begin anew. For me, this took the form of sampling various campus ministries until landing in the community which makes up Campus to City Wesley (holler!). They may not be your congruent community (though I’d recommend checking them out if you haven’t!). My prayer is that above all else, you’ll seek to find the sort of people you imagine doing life with. And I do mean life – that thing that lasts even past college graduation.
Now is the time when lasting friendships are formed. I’ll leave you with some real talk on the subject: Proverbs 13:20 (The Message) – Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.